A Small but Telling Microaggression

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Microaggression is a term used for commonplace daily verbal, behavioral or environmental slights, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative attitudes toward stigmatized or culturally marginalized groups. The term was coined by Harvard University psychiatrist Chester M."

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At a cul-de-sac get together a few months ago a kind neighbor asked me how Jaxon was faring after the death of his best friend. I said that he was doing as well as we could hope for considering.... And then the neighbor said, "It's a good thing Jaxon plays basketball, it keeps him out of trouble." (As if grad parties with nice kids in a neighborhood pool house is "trouble'')

Imagine if I turned the table on my well to do European American neighbor.... "Bob, so sorry to hear about the terrorizing incident at that graduation party. You're so lucky Katherine plays soccer and wasn't there - soccer really keeps her out of trouble."

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